What Women don't wanna Hear

I've been in my current relationship for a long time, seven years to be exact. There have been good times and bad times, but I've learned that sometimes women have difficulties in their relationships because they just don't want to hear about themselves. Sometimes if we would listen, our relationships would be happier and last longer. And just because you don't want to hear about yourself doesn't make the things you hear untrue.

Let me give you some examples. Let's say you and your man are living together and for awhile it's great fun! You say to yourself "I've finally got him!" Six months pass by and he sees some changes in you could be your weight, your grooming, your attitude. Now if he sees something he thinks is wrong, he's probably going to tell you in a nice way something like "hey honey, you've put on some weight!"

Typically when women hear that they either get angry or get defensive and say "No, I'm not!" He might feel that you have gotten lazy during the period you've been living together. He misses the special effort you made for him, when you would prepare to go out or spend time with him by carefully choosing what to wear. Think about when you were dating all the time you would spend in front of the mirror making sure you looked just right, your nails were done, your hair was fixed, and your makeup was perfect. Some things women like to believe they are doing for themselves, but in reality, are doing so they can be noticed and attract a man and a relationship. So why would you stop doing them?

Attitude is another problem. Some women may ask their men where they are going each time they get ready to go somewhere. They guy may say that he is going out with his friends for awhile, but what's going on in the woman's mind is "Yeah, right. Where is he REALLY going? I bet he's going to see some other woman!" You cannot compare a man to a dog, thinking that you can tie him up and make him stay in the house whenever you want to.

Some women give up their lives when they move in with their man or get married. You should maintain the friends and activities you had. All relationships need air and space. You have to give yourself a life, because he will always have his. You don't have to stop living just because you are sharing a home together. Let him go and do what he is doing. When you get to asking "Where are you going?" or "What time are you coming back" or "Why can't we go out together?" you are just going to get yourself angry. He is going to start saying things that you don't want to hear.

When a man is tired of it, he will say "I want a divorce." You will want to know why. Then he will say "I have spoken to you time and time again and told you that you need to change your attitude and get back tot he way you were before." Sure this is hurtful, and there are many things we hate for our men to say to us, but it would be better for us to sit back, listen to him, and ask ourselves: "Why is he saying this to me? Have I really changed that much?" you can't let yourself go just because you have your man under your roof! He loves and cares about you, but he wants you to do the same things you were doing for him before you started living together or married. Your man wants you to be the same as when he met you (if not better!).

There are lots of things we hate to hear, especially from our men. It's important to be strong, don't let yourself go, and keep up your appearance because if not, he will tell you things you don't want to hear. Sit down, look at yourself, and listen to yourself. Insisting that you have to be as you are won't work. If you want to keep your man happy and in the relationship with you, put your best foot forward and be the best you can be!